Depression and Anxiety

@What is Anxiety?

 Anxiety is a normal and often healthy emotion. However, when a person regularly feels disproportionate levels of anxiety, it might become a medical disorder. Anxiety disorders form a category of mental health diagnoses that lead to excessive nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry.

@What is Depression?

Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Also called major depressive disorder or clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems.

@Perfectionism And Anxiety, Is There Really A Connection?

Our lives become smaller and smaller as time goes on due to perfectionism and anxiety. In the years I’ve been working with people through my programs I’ve found that this habit is formed at childhood. As children, we quickly learn what the rules and laws are in this world as we gradually feel more and more dependant on others.

This dependency takes us out of independence, a place of total responsibility and a mind at peace. As we repeatedly get told what our identities are we grow up with beliefs that don’t support any personal thinking or creativity. Whenever we have a bright idea we couldn’t imagine that it could come from us, our self worth has dropped drastically.

Perfectionism and anxiety are subconscious conditions. Habits that we can see beyond through speaking our truth.

Speaking our truth means speaking up, not suppressing. But who to speak up to in order to heal perfectionism and anxiety? the very people that originally made us feel like nothing is worth doing unless it’s done ‘right.’ Reframing the past then becomes an essential tool to be used daily towards healing

@Can Depersonalization Disorder Really Be Cured?

If you really want to confuse yourself ask 5 different people about depersonalization disorder and you’ll get 5 different answers. Actually, you won’t get answers rather theories. Unless you ask someone who’s actually gone through it themselves and can pinpoint practical answers based on finding the cause of this bewildering symptom.

@So then the next question would be ‘what is this debilitating state a symptom of?’ The answer to that isn’t as simple as you’d like it to be, at least in my opinion. But if I absolutely had to simplify the answer it would come down to 5 words…

Compounding traumatic events causing overwhelm

Let’s be honest here, to understand trauma (this episode will help) we have to change the meaning of it first. In many cases trauma is not a life threatening event, rather it’s anything that your own nervous system becomes overwhelmed by, causing a freezing feeling.

Why freezing? Because running or fighting back is deemed an escape and not as much of a trauma. Therefore the experience doesn’t get stored at the emotionally intense level as a freezing experience does.

@What can cause the nervous system to freeze, therefore be deemed a trauma?

Having your toy taken away from you when you were a kid. This can lead to the belief of ‘why bother?’ Anything you do in life will just be taken away from you anyway, right? At least that’s what your own subconscious mind thinks.

    Being yelled at as a child because you didn’t live up to the expectations of an authority figure. Again, not a life threatening experience in itself but certainly one that the infinite storage system called the subconscious mind and body take note of. This experience can lead to the belief that you’re never good enough no matter how hard you try.

    Having your favourite bike get stolen as a child. Your parents probably told you that you can just get another one. But the truth is that you had a deep emotional connection with the old one! This traumatic event can lead to the belief that anything you emotionally attach to will probably just be taken away from you anyway, even people.

@How Past Trauma Tends To Arise During Adulthood

Let’s begin by going back a bit in the timeline of your life and recognize how trauma and learning were connected. Whatever came first in your life (initial experiences) becomes the standard in which everything else in your life gets measured against. If future experiences align with your initial learnings your subconscious mind (we can also refer to it as the child mind) will accept it in and the core belief will grow.

If the information doesn’t fit it gets rejected and let me tell you something, the subconscious (child mind) can become very creative in how it rejects and re-directs your attention (in this case back to fear).

Many anxiety sufferers have a hard time understanding how past trauma arises in them as an adult.

The usual words are “I thought I put that behind me already!” Your conscious mind may have, but remember that trauma gets stored in the largest part of you, your body. 

All of these ‘zip files’ of information stay stored until a time when the child mind believes the adult mind (conscious) can help to resolve them. If the adult conscious mind continues to suppress the feelings and thoughts that arise and continues to distract and use other ways to not deal with them head on, the ‘icky’ feelings in your body will get stronger.

Eventually, we can be met with anxiety disorders or even worse physical illness. It’s a compounding affect that clearly indicates that congruence between the adult and child mind is priority number 1 if optimal health is to be reached. 

Our Bodies And The Way We Repeatedly Think Is A Reflection Of Unresolved Trauma. 

This was the very information that took me away from a place of coping with anxiety to healing

Healing is a place where you feel in your heart (not in your head) that you’ve made peace with your past. The experiences now create a neutral emotional reaction, the people along with yourself are fully forgiven, and the ideas you once lived by are given back to the people who filled your mind and body with them.

Remember, you cannot consciously think up your past traumas. The subconscious mind has put you in ‘chemical protection mode’ to make sure you don’t have to deal with it until a time where you feel too overwhelmed not to. This is where we must understand the power of intention and slowing down.

With intention and slowing down our brainwave states during meditation to an alpha state, we can communicate with the subconscious mind directly.

 A nervous system so highly invested in fear and potential future threat though has a challenging time slowing down. Even sleep becomes choppy and we wake up feeling like we haven’t slept at all. This is why you don’t want to commit to getting it all done right now. Rather, over a period of time exploring the insights you gain through meditation and allowing your intuition to once and for all arise within you once again is the goal.

As we become acquainted with meditation daily we find that our thoughts, words, movements, and everything else begins slowing down as well. Now we give ourselves the opportunity to create, rather than continue to react instinctively.

Now comes the regression work.

When we regress to cause we are in a deep altered state which helps us to emotionally reframe those past events that are showing up through feelings and discomforts today.

If total dissatisfaction and absorption are present during the process of emotional reframing, emotional discharge begins to happen. This shows up in the form of crying, sweating, and even yawning.

That’s why I always tell my friends going through the Inner Circle Program to put away the tissues. You’ve stuffed these feelings down for long enough! It’s time to release them back into the world and move your life in a new direction away from the addiction to suffering.

As a person finds themselves slowing down more, meditating daily, and emotionally reframing these past events they become more spontaneous and give things less thought.

Overthinking is the comfort zone for an anxiety sufferer. They instinctively revert back to it when they don’t know how else to solve an inner or outer problem which maintains their suffering.

As this intuitive and spontaneous you begins arising again you find yourself becoming more childlike and less serious. Things truly start brushing off of you and what was once a monster quickly turns into just an annoying fly. 

Take this message to heart today and allow it to speak to you. Don’t rush to doing something upon reading this, rather take time to understand and connect it to what you may be going through right now.

Soon, love will overtake fear, so keep going.